I remembered my first taste of Australian culture did not come with Locomotion… I discovered later that Kylie Minogue was Australian and I danced and sang more lines with her hit “I can’t get you off my head, boy your love it is all I think about”. I hope her next Album Golden would be so amazing as her previous productions. My cat Martin loves her voice in Slow and I know because he started to purr and lying with his belly exposed like she does in her video. However, my first experience of seeing what was supposed to be the life Down Under was watching Paradise Beach.Of course, when I was fifteen I had never imagined I would spend more than two years in a country, where I fight for my ideas harder than I’ve ever done.
Under these circumstances, the Golden Globe gala was amazing with all the Artists involved in the request of finding a best practice in public and private sphere, which diminish the presence of abuse. Particularly, after Harvey Weinstein‘s case. Nicole Kidman was extremely glad of getting her prize as best actress for the role of a mother victim of violence at home in the film Big little lies. She used her time for being grateful of having a mother who defended the Feminist movement when she was a children.
“Sunny, Faith, I’m bringing this home to you, babies,” she began, referencing her and Keith Urban’s two young daughters. She went on to gush over co-stars Reese Witherspoon, Laura Dern, Shailene Woodley, and Zoe Kravitz, saying they “pledged allegiance to each other. Wow, the power of women.”
In the other side of the Atlantic
I found that some feminist and intellectuals in France consider the idea of attacking sexual harassment as a step back in the freedom of women sexuality because what media, artists, creators, and citizens are doing is putting women in a position similar to any children. I found it quite ridiculous we are talking about how someone uses his power, money or relations to threat a career or an employee, or making her life complicated after rejection, that is the real difference or being in a situation where saying ‘no’ is not perceived as something anybody would like to have the opportunity to do without feel fe a punishment for it. There is the big problem with harassment.
Of course, having sexual desire is part of every person in the planet. At least, you are asexual so, having desire and express it too but when someone can coerce a woman because they are in a position of authority achieved through job, money, religion, status, will or power, we are facing a clear example of abuse. It is not about Victorian values, it is about respect and having the option of choosing with whom you will share your body without any kind of unexpected action, manipulation, dubious action (like to attack the personal values of someone in the public sphere for fun or to destroy his or her character in the public opinion), threat or menace. When you read this you can see the difference between gallantry and sexual harassment.
We shouldn’t try to say sexual desire could be compared with sexual harassment. Everybody feels desire, how do you manage your actions to get closer to a woman or men you are into would provide a very clear important differences. Particularly, when you are working with the person and you are his manager, boss, vice-President, Director or CEO.
Sometimes women and men could believe that we need our power back or saying we are going backwards, which is impossible. Women had just start winning in their battle for equality since they were recognised as voters and that just happened in the XIX century so, what we had seen in the last 130 years is how that battle advanced. We hadn’t got so much legal power before in the regular basis. At least, the woman was a noble or a Queen. Creating spaces to discuss topics like harassment couldn’t or shouldn’t get interpreted as a lost but an opportunity to find new ways to stop it.
One of the most interesting actions was the clear dream of Oprah Winfrey. Nobody doubts she will be running for President of the United States in 2020. Perhaps, being winner of a prize like Cecil B. DeMille for her unstoppable and successful career on media and communications, as well as, actress, producer, among other roles made the moment unforgivable. Long time ago she confessed being victim of child sexual abuse so, her voice hadn’t got only the force of a professional but a survivor.
These are extracts from her speech “I want to thank the Hollywood Foreign Press Association. We know the press is under siege these days. We also know it’s the insatiable dedication to uncovering the absolute truth that keeps us from turning a blind eye to corruption and to injustice.”
“…So I want tonight to express gratitude to all the women who have endured years of abuse and assault because they, like my mother, had children to feed and bills to pay and dreams to pursue…”
“…They’re the women whose names we’ll never know. They are domestic workers and farm workers. They are working in factories and they work in restaurants and they’re in academia, engineering, medicine and science. They’re part of the world of tech and politics and business. They’re our athletes in the Olympics and they’re our soldiers in the military.”
Even David Letterman had acknowledged the special and transcendental life she has experienced, she has always being a humble woman. Undoubtedly, what I read from Oprah, as well as, Nicole’s youth in Australia let me discover to avoid listening harsh comments about not fitting inside the Australian beauty standards, where you should have a perfect tan, sexy body and, and beach blonde hair. Nicole talked long time ago to a magazine about how she couldn’t reach that level as a teenager as some of her friends did it because her white skin, curly red hair and freckles weren’t part of what was considered as the best Australian Aesthetics. I love it, if someone with Nicole Kidman’s genes couldn’t reach it and Oprah can overcome so harsh experiences and be happy, there should be a way to find the same path
Their speeches were brilliant that night.